We write these words with love, respect, and admiration for all the women who fight every day to make their dream of becoming a mother come true.
I always wondered why my period never came. I was a teenager, at the age when you’re supposed to experience your first cycle. My friends—my lifelong companions—talked about it, about the cramps, about the little tricks to “hide” the bleeding.
Days and months went by. I knew that sooner or later it would be my turn, but… when? I grew older, and still nothing. At that age, I should have already been experiencing my cycles, but they never came. Do I have a problem? I kept asking myself. Something wasn’t right—I decided I had to see a specialist.
After years of doubts, fears, and insecurities, the day finally came to talk to a doctor and explain my symptoms. The doctor examined me and said: “You have Swyer Syndrome.”
I froze. Of course, I had never heard that word before. My nerves took over, and all I could think was: What does this mean for me? Is there even a solution?
The doctor explained: “Swyer Syndrome is a rare genetic condition where a person has female traits despite having one X and one Y chromosome (the male pattern). The person has female reproductive organs such as a uterus, fallopian tubes, and a vagina. However, the ovaries don’t develop—instead, there are masses of tissue.”
Suddenly everything made sense. That’s why my period never came! But then my thoughts went to the hardest part: What about motherhood? I had always wanted to be a mother. Would I really never be able to fulfill that dream? I hadn’t even left the clinic yet and I was already overwhelmed by frustration, anxiety, and despair.
I walked out of that appointment clouded by information and filled with questions. I needed to go back and speak with my doctor again.
And then came the words that changed everything: “OF COURSE YOU CAN BE A MOTHER. YOU CAN ABSOLUTELY MAKE YOUR DREAM COME TRUE”.
We talked for a long time, but my heart held on to that phrase. I can be a mother!
The doctor explained that assisted reproduction could make my dream possible. With egg donation, a treatment similar to in vitro fertilization (IVF), I could carry my baby using donated eggs and my partner’s sperm—or donor sperm.
Of course, I said yes! A thousand times yes. All those tears and fears have now turned into laughter, joy, and yes—even more tears, but this time tears of happiness. Despite my rare condition, I know I will succeed. My dream is mine, and I am the one who will make it happen.
I will go for it. I will begin my egg donation treatment and I will achieve what I have always wanted: to be a mother.
And if you’ve just received this diagnosis, I want you to know something: don’t give up. Motherhood is still possible, and you will make it. If you’d like to talk to a specialist who can guide and support you, don’t hesitate to reach out to OvobankUS. Because you, as a woman, deserve to make your dreams come true.